Deliberate Practice: How to Master Skills and Achieve Goals

How do we get the best out of our time? How can we be most effective and productive with our time? What is deliberate practice and how do you do it?

Timing is critical, as time is the one truly limited resource, so we need to make sure we make the best use of the time we have. As Benjamin Franklin observed:

“You may delay, but time will not.” – Benjamin Franklin

Therefore, we have to answer:

  • What are we going to invest our time in?
  • How much of our time should we invest?
  • What is the most effective and productive way to use our time?

What should you spend your time doing?

Knowing what to spend your time on is a matter of prioritisation. You have to know what is the most important thing to do. To do that you have to understand why you even want to do something in the first place. This is the reason The Right Questions Framework looks at the why questions first to help answer this.

Once that you know why you are wanting to do something you can confirm what is the best thing to do. This is where we identify our mission, goal or other measure of success.

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Productivity and the effective use of time: the discipline of practice

We would all like quick success but our biggest dreams will take considerable time and a lot of hard work to achieve. One wise person once told me that people overestimate what they can achieve in one year and underestimate what they can achieve in five or ten years. I have found this to be true.

Don’t underestimate the cumulative effect of applied time. Investors understand the power of compound interest when it comes to money. The same applies to the time we invest in something, including our personal development. If we continue to invest our time wisely and with focus then we can achieve great things.

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” – Bruce Lee

Malcolm Gladwell in Outliers: The Story of Success did a study that explored the lives of many of the world’s most successful people and looked at the patterns behind their achievements.  One large theme prevails: that it takes a concerted application of time to achieve anything truly great.  Gladwell estimated that it requires 10,000 hours of quality practice to become an expert at one given thing or become world-class in a particular field.

Deliberate Practice: what it is and how it works

The key point here is not so much the 10,000 hours but the idea of effective or deliberate practice, something explained in detail by Robert Pool and Anders Ericsson in Peak: Secrets from the new science of expertise.

Deliberate practice involves these 5 things:

  • It develops skills using proven training techniques
  • Stretches the comfort zone; being just on the verge of one’s ability
  • Is based on specific, well-defined goals (both overall and for each practice)
  • Is purposeful and specifically focuses on those specific goals
  • Is a learning cycle which includes experimentation, reflection and finding new ways to improve.

Or as Anders himself sums up:

“So here we have purposeful practice in a nutshell: Get outside your comfort zone but do it in a focused way, with clear goals, a plan for reaching those goals, and a way to monitor your progress. Oh, and figure out a way to maintain your motivation.” ― Anders Ericsson

The latter point, regarding the process being a cycle, is reflective of Kolb’s learning model, where there are four components in the learning cycle:

  1. Concrete experience in practice leads to
  2. Reflective observation of how that practice went, then
  3. Abstract conceptualisation (mental representations) of what is being learned, followed by modification and
  4. Active experimentation to get further feedback, and so the cycle continues.

So, we not only make good habits and routines, but we then, through deliberate practice, make sure that the time we put in has the maximum impact and effect.

Video introduction to Kolb’s Learning Cycle

Counting the opportunity cost

If we are going to be that focused and invest our resources in one particular way we are going to have to count the cost.  For every outlay of time or money, there is an opportunity cost; the cost of not investing our resources somewhere else.  In other words when we choose to do one thing, by default we choose to not do various other things.

You can become good at almost anything, but you cannot be good at everything.

We watch sports stars, standing on a podium receiving their gold medal at the moment of glory.  What we don’t see is the years of training, the sweat and tears spent hour after hour, day after day, invested in the dream of that moment, in the winning of the prize.  How many days and evenings out with friends were sacrificed?  What number of holidays were foregone?  Which alternative careers were declined?  You can be sure that the opportunity cost was high.

The fulfilment of a vision is going to take time and hard work.  That is why we need a dream to compel us, a mission to focus upon, and a passion to spur us forward, no matter what the obstacles are that lie in the way.  If we have that level of compulsion we can make the investment of time that is needed to succeed. With that motivation, we can build the habit of deliberate practice and self-discipline to keep pushing ourselves.

“We don’t rise to the level of our expectations; we fall to the level of our training.” – Archilochus

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The Sunglasses Tool: FOCUS

I pretty much never leave the house without sunglasses. I like to be outside, but I don’t like to squint the whole time, so sunglasses help me keep me see clearly and stay fully focussed. Sometimes it is almost like putting on another persona when I put on my glasses. At the beginning of a hike or a race, I put on my sunglasses and I become the focussed me; eyes on the goal.

That is why, when we need focus and deliberate practice, we can use The Right Questions Sunglasses tool. Here, the word ‘focus’ becomes an acronym for the five components of deliberate practice. In other words:

F – Fully Focussed

O – Outside your comfort zone

C – Clear goals

U – Using measures to monitor progress

S – Self-discipline

In my experience discipline is more important than motivation. That is because we don’t always feel motivated. Getting outside your comfort zone is challenging, we won’t always want to do it. That is why we need strong self-discipline. Motivation and a sense of flow may come when we act, but it is self-discipline that will most likely initiate that action.

With discipline comes a state of flow

The good news is that the more we use our self-discipline and apply the principles of deliberate practice we start to achieve mastery over something. When we do this and continue to apply our focus we can achieve a state of flow.

The idea of flow is the feeling of being ‘in the zone’, where there is a sense of timelessness as your body and mind become hyper focussed on what you are doing.

The term flow was first used by psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi in 1970.  Csíkszentmihályi was was fascinated by the way artists get lost in their work and could be so immersed that they forget the need to eat or sleep. This phenomenon has been observed in other fields and Sir Isaac Newton was famous for forgetting everything else when he was deep in thought.

The idea of flow also relates to the idea of the Individual Zone of Optimal Functioning and the experience of athletes in elite sports. Here once again, athletes can experience a hyper-focus that is also a transcendental experience where there is a feeling of effortlessness when they achieve their best. Formula One driver Ayrton Senna, whilst qualifying for the 1988 Monaco Grand Prix, put it this way:

“I was already on pole, […] and I just kept going. Suddenly I was nearly two seconds faster than anybody else, including my team mate with the same car. And suddenly I realised that I was no longer driving the car consciously. I was driving it by a kind of instinct, only I was in a different dimension. It was like I was in a tunnel.”

We cannot guarantee getting into a flow state, but research does show that the more we gain mastery, through deliberate practice, the more likely we are to achieve this zone. And it is worth aiming for because if we can get into flow we get not just increased focus but also improved learning and a greater chance of overall success.

The time to start deliberate practice is now

As mentioned at the beginning, time is our only truly limited resource, therefore we can’t afford to waste any of it. That’s why it is so important to know what we want to achieve and why, and then find the most effective way to succeed. This is where deliberate practice comes in. Once we have built taken the first step and started to build new habits, one of those habits should be deliberate practice. Crucial to this is getting out of our comfort zone, and stretching ourselves to improve.

The theory is simple; it is the motivation, discipline and commitment that is hard. That is why we always bring to mind the vision, the end goal, and remind ourselves that it is possible. And on that note, I will leave the final word to Anders Ericsson who encourages us by saying that with deliberate practice:

“If you wish to become significantly better at something, you can.” ― K. Anders Ericsson

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About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

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The top 10 websites for improving your productivity and purpose

Here is my Top 10 websites for getting inspiration and becoming more productive in your life and work. There are some fantastic resources here so I hope you find them as useful as I have.

99u (http://99u.com)

The name 99u comes from the quote by Thomas Edison that “Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.” The content is a mixture of articles, tips and videos about making ideas happen.  99u is committed to education and the dissemination of practical ideas and, as well as having the website, they have an advisory branch, a book (Making Ideas Happen by Scott Belsky), and they also host an annual conference. If like me, you have lots of ideas but need the drive to make them happen, this is a great place to start.

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The Smart Passive Income Blog (http://www.smartpassiveincome.com)

I was introduced to Pat Flynn’s site by a friend when I was redesigning my own website. The content on the Smart Passive Income Blog, coupled with the excellent podcast, transformed the way I looked at doing business online. Pat is very open handed and shares his experience freely. He also communicates in such a humble, friendly and disarming way that before long it feels as if you have known him personally for years. Pat’s story of his success is particularly pertinent at the moment as he has shown how you can turn being made redundant into a positive life changing opportunity. Pat is a generous and inspiring guy; whether or not you are looking to make money online you should check him out.

Start With Why (http://www.startwithwhy.com)

I first came across Simon Sinek via his TED talk on ‘How great leaders inspire action’ where he outlines the premise behind his book ‘Start with Why’. The content struck an immediate cord with me, as I am another firm believer in the importance of ‘Why’ and the need to understand the values, principles and motivations behind our life and work. Simon is a great orator and writer and makes his content very accessible. You can get a copy of his book by clicking here: Start With Why.

Mind Tools (http://www.mindtools.com)

Mind Tools is a treasure trove of useful content for your career. Mind Tools are a granddaddy in Internet terms as they have been around since 1996 and, led by James Manktelow their founder and CEO, they have amounted a host of great free content, as well as e-courses and a membership site. In 2012 they received a well-deserved Queen’s Award for Enterprise.

Thought Questions (http://thoughtquestions.com)

I love the simple concept behind the Thought Questions website, where every day there is a new question to inspire, provoke and reflect upon. The tagline ‘asking the right question is the answer’ resonates with me too as it reflects one of my favourite quotes by Francis Bacon: ‘A prudent question is one half of wisdom’. The founders, Marc and Angel, also have a great blog, ‘Marc and Angel hack life’ (http://www.marcandangel.com/) where there are tips on how to live a productive life.

Life Hacker (http://lifehacker.com)

The Right Questions - Life hacks

As this list is effectively about smart thinking and productivity tools it would certainly not be complete without referring to Life Hacker. As Life Hacker says in the tagline, it has tips, and downloads for getting things done. At Life Hacker they apply ‘getting things done’ to the whole of life so the scope of Life Hacker’s content is boggling, and it just keeps on growing. If you want to work smart, not hard, this is the place to go. Whitson Gordon I salute you!

Tony Robbins (http://www.tonyrobbins.com)

The right questions - coaching

Anthony Robbins is probably the world’s most famous coach and motivational speaker. He has developed his very own approach to coaching called ‘results coaching’; and you have to agree, Tony Robbins is a man who gets results! Tony is incredibly successful and his popularity just continues to grow. Tony is an extraordinary communicator and has the ability to engage with individuals as well as speak to thousands while distilling complex – and often emotional – content into practical wisdom. You cannot help but feel motivated after hearing this man speak or after reading his books such as Awaken the Giant Within.

Inc. (http://www.inc.com)

Inc. started out in traditional publishing as a magazine specifically for entrepreneurs and leaders looking to grow their businesses and became famous for it’s ‘Inc. 500 list’ of the fastest growing privately owned companies in the US. The magazine went online in 1996 and since then the website has matured into a bank of inspiration and advice as well as useful how-to-guides. There are lots of great articles; one of my favourite recent posts is ‘Servant First, Leader Second’ by Brent Gleeson.

Edge (www.edge.org)

The Edge is a space for cutting edge ideas and is an excellent place to go in order to challenge your thinking and expand your mind.  Fundamental to the whole concept is that of asking questions and exploring the questions that are on the minds of some of the great thinkers of our time.  The site is edited by John Brockman who is also the author and editor of some excellent books including Thinking.

Audible

Just like the amp in Spinal Tap, this one goes up to 11!

I am adding in Audible here at the end because, although it is different to the other resources on here, I am now a true convert and it has really helped me achieve my learning goals (as you can read about here).  

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About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

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Café culture and the art of working on the move

For many people good coffee is a daily accompaniment to their work. For those working on the move – be they freelancers, the self-employed or people on business trips – finding free Wi-Fi hotspots and working from cafes is something of a fine art. Here are some of the ups and downs of working out of coffeehouses.

The advantages:

Work where you want, when you want

Working from cafés gives you real flexibility. It allows you to work near to wherever you need to be. For most people that means being able to work conveniently beyond home and the office. But some business people have taken this to an extreme, working remotely from almost any part of the globe, no matter what the time-zone, and combining the lifestyle they want with earning good money (read Tim Ferris’ The Four Hour Workweek). It is now possible to fund your world travels by working online rather than picking up casual jobs in bars and shops. It also provides the chance to earn a lot more and not have to put your career on hold while you move about.

Smart financial sense for small businesses

Even if you buy several drinks during the course of the day this expense is still likely to be a lot less than hiring your own office space. In major cities even co-working spaces do not come cheap and many small businesses – and especially freelancers – use cafés to work from as a way of reducing overheads.

Meeting interesting people

You may not have your own colleagues around but working on the move gives the opportunity to combat the loneliness of working alone. You can also meet new people, gain experience from outside your industry and even pick up business if you choose to be outgoing. To get the most out of this part of mobile working you do have to become comfortable with starting conversations. If you are self employed you should see this as a vital skill; being able to talk to others about what you do is essential if you want to win new business. So why not practise your small talk and elevator pitch in a relaxed atmosphere over a coffee! If you are stuck for how to start a conversation sit by any power socket in the coffee shop and you will soon meet another fellow worker.

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The disadvantages:

A hot-desk is usually a small desk

If you are working on the move you cannot necessarily guarantee your own ‘desk’ and whatever space you get is likely to be limited. It is hard to lug around large screens, printers and other tools that you might require so you have to plan your work differently knowing that these things are not on tap. Batch your work so you have everything you need to do the tasks at hand; this will help you be more productive too.

Hit and miss connectivity

It is hard to get much done these days unless you can connect to the Internet. Finding reliable, fast and free Wi-Fi is getting easier but still requires some hunting around. Most of the large coffee and food chains now provide some sort of Wi-Fi provision so they provide a good back up if you cannot find a smaller, more interesting café to set up shop. There are also an increasing number of sites you can use to find good cafés with free Wi-Fi so you can get the Internet on the move.

The challenge of productivity

Working from home, especially if you do not have dedicated office space, is full of all sorts of distractions but working out of a café can also have its challenges. It takes a lot of self-discipline to get down to work on time if there is no boss checking the clock and it is easier to succumb to the temptation to surf the Internet rather than do what you need to do when you have no colleagues looking over your shoulder. Make sure you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve at the beginning of each day. This is true in any workplace but you will especially need this focus if you want to be productive while working on the move.

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About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

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How the Eisenhower decision matrix can improve time management

The Best Prioritizing and Time Management Tools: The Eisenhower Matrix

Do you want to get better at time management and setting priorities? Most of us do and fortunately there are some simple tools and approaches that can help us become more effective at making decisions. The Eisenhower Matrix is one such tool.

What is the Eisenhower Matrix?

The Eisenhower matrix is so named because the original concept is accredited to US President Dwight D. Eisenhower. I first came across the concept of the Eisenhower matrix in Stephen Covey’s book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, it helped me see ‘to-do’ lists in a whole new way and I have used the system ever since. The Eisenhower matrix is a prioritization tool and therefore a good basis for a time management system. It is most commonly used for business prioritization and project management but is just as good for personal time management and is actually best when used to consider everything you do in life, not just work tasks.

I love the Eisenhower matrix as, similarly to the SWOT analysis it is simple, highly effective and based around a four-quadrant matrix that is easy to remember and use.

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Time management is vitally important

Time is our most precious resource. This is not a new idea, some of the oldest phrases that we use are related to time, such as: tempus fugit, time flies; or carpe diem, seize the day.

I asked my boss if I could leave half an hour early the other day. 


He said, ” Only if you make up the time.”


I said, ” OK. It’s 35 past 50.”

Time is finite, but even though we cannot create more time we can become better at time management and make more effective use of the time that we have. We do this but prioritizing things, in other words by putting ‘first things first’ and making sure we focus on what is most important at any given time and then putting our energies and resources behind those activities.

Prioritizing is key to effective time management

Prioritizing is key to better productivity, efficiency and effectiveness. Communication and change happen so fast now that you could work around the clock just to keep up with the millions of demands that are fighting for your attention. Email and social media are particularly good at swallowing our time if we are not careful, especially in the age of smart phones that means that we can be connected to the internet and our inbox pretty much anywhere in the world.

The problem is that it is not always that easy to prioritize the things we have to do and that is why it is very helpful to have a prioritization tool to help us. This is where the Eisenhower Matrix comes in.

“The importance of time largely depends upon which side of the bathroom door you are on.”

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Are tasks important or urgent?

“What is important is seldom urgent and what is urgent is seldom important.” Dwight D. Eisenhower

The Eisenhower matrix works by asking two simple questions of any task we could undertake. The questions are:

  • Is it important?
  • Is it urgent?

By answering yes or no to these questions we come up with a four quadrant matrix that divides tasks into those that are:

1. Important and urgent – things we need to do now

2. Important and not urgent – things we need to plan to do

3. Urgent but not important – things we should try and delegate

4. Not urgent and not important – things we should avoid doing

This process is helpful as it is very easy to waste time on unimportant tasks or to become distracted. Putting our to-do list through the Eisenhower matrix allows us to be much more focused and productive.

Working out whether something is urgent or not is relatively easy as something that has a time dependent nature is usually self-evident.

It can be harder to work out what is truly important. What we consider important is strongly linked to what we value – and therefore to a degree it is subjective – but there are some things that generally fall in the ‘important’ box.

Some common tasks are listed in the diagram below and this can be used as something of a template for your own to-do list.

How to use the Eisenhower Matrix

To use the Eisenhower method, follow these steps:

  1. List: Take a few minutes now to brainstorm and note down the things you have to do
  2. Analyse: check the importance, ask:
    • What would happen if the task was not completed?
    • Can the task be delegated?
  3. Assess: check the urgency, ask:
    • Does the task have to be done in the next 48 hrs? If so it’s urgent.
  4. Assign: Now you have sorted the tasks, assign them to the different quadrants, listed in priority order
  5. Schedule: Put the tasks into your diary or planner. Put time in the diary not only for the urgent-important tasks but also plan ahead for the quadrant two tasks and make a plan for how and when you are going to delegate the third quadrant tasks.
  6. Action: Start to work through the tasks in priority order
  7. Review: Update and re-assess the priorities regularly (for example once a day)

Want to learn more about time management?

If you want to find out some more about time management and increase your productivity then there are some other good resources you can look to.

As I mentioned previously the Eisenhower matrix is a time management tool that Stephen Covey refers to in his book ‘The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People’. I rate this as being in the top ten management and leadership books that I have ever read; it transformed the way I work. You can get a copy by clicking on the image:

Timothy Ferriss – entrepreneur, speaker and author – addresses time management in his book, The 4-Hour Work Week. Tim is particularly good at applying the 80:20 rule (the Pareto Principle) and he takes time management and outsourcing to the extreme to show how you can achieve a four-hour work week, but you benefit from his life hacks whatever life-work balance you are striving for. You can get a copy here:

You can read more posts on time management and prioritization here:

Three Essential Principles for Prioritisation and Good Decision Making

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The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

Need help navigating your journey to success?

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Be More Steve – Decision Making the Steve Jobs Way

The 5th October 2019 marked eight years since we lost Steve Jobs but his impact and wisdom lives on.  Last week I was reminded of the key to decision making and setting priorities.

What Steve Jobs did was actually really simple, and seemingly common sense.  He would work out the one most important thing he could be doing on any day, and then he would do that.

In his own words:

“Prioritization sounds like such a simple thing, but true prioritization starts with a very difficult question to answer, especially at a company with a portfolio approach: If you could only do one thing, what would it be? And you can’t rationalize the answer, and you can’t attach the one thing to some other things. It’s just the one thing.”

Steve Jobs

It was last week, listening to Rachel Carrell, founder of Koru Kids that I was reminded of this lesson to ‘be more Steve’ when it comes to prioritisation and decision making.

And guess what? Steve Jobs learnt this from Jerry Yang, the CEO of Yahoo. So to ‘be more Steve’ is not just to set good priorities, it is also to learn from other leaders as every interaction and exposure to another leader is a chance to grow.

You can read the full interview in the New York Times here:

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If you want the right answers you have to start with the right questions

About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

Need help navigating your journey to success?

I love to serve people, helping them unlock their potential, empowering them as leaders, and assisting them in achieving their goals. Please get in touch and let me know how I can support you!

Why a Good Evening Routine is More Important Than Your Morning Routine

Morning routine: It’s less about getting up early; it’s more about getting to bed on time

It does not matter how well-intentioned you are, what killer morning routine you are following or how early you wake up; if you are overly tired you are not going to be more productive and creative. You may even be doing yourself harm.

Particularly at the moment, with the threat of COVID 19, we all need strong immune systems and the ability to repair our bodies effectively. Therefore whatever morning routine you choose, make sure it is not impacting on quality sleep or you are adopting early wake-ups for the wrong reasons.

Are you tough enough?

I started my career in the military and I am a parent so I have had my fair (or unfair) share of early mornings and sleep deprivation. There is something to be said for learning how to manage your body — and your emotions — when you are tired but there is a danger that having just a few hours of sleep becomes a badge of honour. This is a dangerous culture.

Stories of entrepreneurs, politicians and other influencers who claim they can get by on just a few hours of sleep a night do not help. There is a lot to learn from such people and their routines, but when it comes to sleep, you have to look at the science.

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The effects of lack of sleep on our thinking

Even just one night of reduced sleep impairs our decision-making and response times. One well-known example is that driving a vehicle when tired is equivalent to drunk driving (Williamson and Feyer). But that impairment caused by lack of sleep affects all our reasoning. Simple fact: you are likely to make worse decisions if you are tired. I am sure we can all think of personal examples!

And it is not just the speed of our cognition; it is the quality of our thinking too. We are far less creative if we are tired. This is partly due to the fact that sleeping aids our creativity, as the cycles of REM and NREM sleep (Drago, Foster et al) help the processing of our data and allow new experimental connections for that information (hence crazy dreams!). Dreaming causes a powerful creative boost, particularly if you can have lucid dreams, the dreams where you are aware of your dream and can change aspects of the dream (Zink, Pietrowsky).

We also struggle to learn new information or recall old data when we are tired. Did I pay any attention to this as a student? No! I have had the terrifying experience of late-night revision followed by not being able to recall anything in an exam the next day. That still gives me nightmares! So learn from my mistakes and note, that late-night cramming sessions are likely to be counter-productive (Curcio, Ferrara, Gennaro) and being half-asleep during lessons will not help you get the grades you want.

“Some people talk in their sleep. Lecturers talk while other people sleep”
Albert Camus

The impact of sleep deprivation on health

A lack of sleep immediately starts to impact your immune system but the impact compounds if you continue not having enough sleep over longer periods of time (Bryant, Trinder, Curtis).

Continually having less sleep than the body needs is classed as chronic sleep deprivation. The crazy thing is that many jobs, for example, anything with a long day and night shift work (Berger and Hobbs) can induce chronic sleep deprivation. If you choose an early morning routine without enough rest then you are in danger of developing the same chronic condition.

There is increasing evidence that this lack of quality sleep is linked to longer-term physical and mental health issues such as developing Type 2 diabetes or Alzheimer’s disease (Carmen).

Therefore we should all be concerned about getting quality sleep and reducing the times when we have fewer hours to rest, or our sleep is interrupted.

How much sleep do you need?

“The amount of sleep required by the average person is five minutes more.”

Playwright Wilson Mizner, quoted in The Philadelphia Inquirer

The simple fact is: we need sleep and if you don’t sleep you will eventually die. However, you can survive on small amounts of sleep for a very long time. This is an important survival adaptation. It is amazing what the body can do when we need to push it. Those who have sailed solo around the world can testify to this, but equally few of those sailors would recommend the same sleeping regimen when they are ashore. Therefore being able to operate with minimal sleep is a useful survival mechanism but not a good modus operandi.

The general recommendation is that you need 7–9 hours of sleep a night (Chaput, Dutil, Sampasa-Kanyinga). If you think you are an exception to that rule then think again. There have been studies showing some people who genetically need slightly less (or slightly more) sleep but these are a tiny proportion of the population and this abnormality is generally bad for life expectancy anyway (Bushey, Tononi, Cirelli) so it may be something to get medical advice on, rather than to boast about.

So not getting enough sleep is literally burning the candle at both ends. Being awake too much and asleep too little reduces your life expectancy. So what can we do about it? We can ensure a good evening routine for starters, and that is what we will look at next.

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There is still a lot to be said for having a good morning routine

For the record, I generally get up reasonably but not crazily early (around 6 am). I like to have time for reflection, light exercise and a healthy breakfast before I get into my working day. This routine is frequently interrupted (see earlier note reference children) but the success of my morning routine, and my day, is largely dependent upon the quality of my rest.

Therefore it is the evening routine that ensures a successful morning routine. 

Here are some guidelines for developing a good night routine, as recommended by Matthew Walker in his excellent book Why We Sleep.

Set an alarm to go to bed, not one to get up

I don’t actually set an alarm but I do watch the clock and get into bed on time. That way I can wake up naturally. It is very rare that I set an alarm unless I have some crazy early flight to catch or some other abnormal, occasional event, like setting off to climb a mountain while the snow bridges on the glaziers are still frozen solid. So you get the idea, that alarms in the morning are best not to be an everyday occurrence.

Don’t watch screens late

It was not that long ago when having a TV in your house, let alone your room was seen as a real luxury (speak to your parents!). Now, with our phones, tablets, computers and more besides, it does not matter where we go, a diverting moving image is just a swipe away. The problem is that the blue light given off by our devices plays havoc with our sleep.

Watching a screen suppresses the production of melatonin, our sleep hormone. Therefore watching something when you are tired, or just before sleeping (or if you wake up in the night), will make it harder to sleep. Better to read a book, listen to relaxing music, or write in your journal.

Don’t eat late

There are plenty of dieting and fasting routines out there too but quite simply, if you give yourself ample time to digest every night you will put on less weight and sleep better (Truong).

Ideally, I like to eat my dinner before 7 pm which then gives about 12-14 hours before breakfast. This is a good amount of time to reset your system as it is in itself a mini-fasting period.

And don’t snack just before you go to sleep, you should ideally have a couple of hours between eating and sleeping. The challenge is that in the modern world, we only have to reach out our arms to get a snack, whether that is at home, at the office or out and about in the city.

This is where the discipline comes in. It is very hard to overcome the biologically hard-wired urges to snack when there is food available, and that it just what snack and fast food sellers make their money from.

Be strong! 

Have a good dinner and then wait until breakfast. You will feel better for it. For me, that means reducing the ‘bad’ snack food in the house. I know I will give in to the temptation if it is in the cupboard!

Don’t drink alcohol late

The idea of a nightcap is not a good one. Alcohol helps you feel sleepy but it actually erodes the quality of your rest (Roehrs, Roth). The more alcohol in the system the greater the impact, therefore it is best to avoid having a drink close to bedtime. I wish that Malt Whisky was a good sleep tonic but unfortunately, the science says otherwise.

Don’t have too much caffeine

Reduce the amount of caffeine you consume, especially after midday. I love coffee (and would go as far as saying as having that I have a deep, meaningful, long-term, committed relationship with coffee) but I try to limit myself to two cups in the morning.

In the afternoon I swap to tea or various sorts. Being English, I must have a cup of proper tea around 4 pm. Later in the evening, I aim to have non-caffeinated drinks such as mint tea or hot water with lemon and ginger.


So should I get up early or not?

There is no problem with getting up early, if you have had enough quality sleep. Therefore if you want a productive morning routine then make sure you develop a good evening routine.

There is loads more to read on this subject. As a starting point check out the references below but if you want to read one good book on the subject then I definitely recommend Why We Sleep. It is this book that prompted my change in approach to my morning and evening routines.

“There is a time for many words, and there is also a time for sleep.”
Homer, The Odyssey


References:

Williamson and Feyer, Moderate sleep deprivation produces impairments in cognitive and motor performance equivalent to legally prescribed levels of alcohol intoxication

Drago, Foster et al, Cyclic alternating pattern in sleep and its relationship to creativity

Zink, Pietrowsky, Relationship between Lucid Dreaming, Creativity and Dream Characteristics

Curcio, Ferrara, Gennaro, Sleep loss, learning capacity and academic performance

Bryant, Trinder, Curtis, Sick and tired: does sleep have a vital role in the immune system?

Berger and Hobbs, Impact of Shift Work on the Health and Safety of Nurses and Patients

Editor, The Diabetes Community Diabetes and Sleep

Carmen, Deep sleep may be the key to prevent Alzheimer’s disease

Chaput, Dutil, Sampasa-Kanyinga, Sleeping hours: what is the ideal number and how does age impact this?

Bushey, Tononi, Cirelli, The Drosophila Fragile X Mental Retardation Gene Regulates Sleep Need

Walker, M, ‘Why we sleep’

Roehrs, Roth, Sleep, Sleepiness, and Alcohol Use

Truong, Weight Loss and Sleep

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Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

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How to Make Better Decisions in 10 Steps

I have been fascinated by the art and science of decision-making ever since being trained as a bomb disposal officer, back at the beginning of my career. Since then, I have worked in various sectors and in numerous senior management roles. I have learned that the need to make good decisions is critical to every leadership position. What is more, working as a leadership coach I have found that a large part of my coaching is helping people think about choices they must make and assisting them in effective decision-making.

We all have the ability to make choices, but making effective decisions is not a given. The good news is that decision-making can be learned, and by applying simple models you can ensure you will make better decisions and develop your competency as a decision-maker.

Important vs non-important decisions 

My experience, coupled with my reading and research, has led me to these ten steps that I recommend to anyone needing to make an important decision. I say important decision as most of the time it is not worth sweating over the small stuff. If we overthink every decision, we can suffer from analysis paralysis. For smaller, less critical decisions we can use heuristics (rules of thumb) or simple hacks to help with choices. We don’t want to spend an age deciding what coffee we are having today or scrutinise every item we select at the supermarket.

So, what is an important decision? In this case, I am talking about are the larger choices we must make in life. Decisions about our vocation, our life direction, or our loved ones. If you are considering a new job, a romantic partner, a new home, or something else of a similar magnitude, then it is worth following these steps.

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The 10 steps to making effective decisions

So here are the ten steps in summary:

  1. Take time out
  2. Identify the type of problem
  3. Apply a decision-making process or model
  4. Ask questions
  5. Understand what really matters
  6. Assess factors and constraints
  7. Identify assumptions
  8. Consider your options
  9. Think through the consequences
  10. Make your choice and act upon the decision

Let’s now look at each step in more detail.

1. Take time out

The first thing, when faced with an important decision, is to pause. Take time to make your decision. We all face stimuli, external forces that we need to react to. Each stimulus leads to a response. The gap between the stimulus and our response is called the decision space. This is where we engage our brain rather than just relying on instinct. Our reactions and intuitive responses can be very helpful, but we should try to use our head, as well as our heart, whenever we can.

Even when faced with an imminent, life-threatening decision it is (more often than not) worth taking just a micro-pause to think before you act. For example, if you are hiking in the woods and you are suddenly confronted with a bear then everything inside of you might be screaming at you to turn and run. This is the natural fight or flight response. But running is not the recommended option. The National Parks Service recommends that you identify yourself, stand your ground, wave your arms, and remain calm. Doing that requires a moment to think, control yourself and decide to do those things. They are not a natural response.

Most big decisions are not so life-threatening, or so time-critical, that we cannot take time out. Therefore, set aside time, put it in your diary and avoid other distractions so you can objectively think about the choice you have to make.

2. Identify the type of problem

The next thing to work out is the sort of problem you are facing. Maybe you did not even realise there are different sorts of problems, but there are, and the nature of the problem relates to the sort of solution you want to pursue.

One of the best-known frameworks for classifying problems is that of Keith Grint who developed the idea of criticalwicked and tame problems. Critical problems are ones that need immediate action and clear direction. The example of coming face-to-face with a bear would come into this category. Wicked problems are ones with no known solution and may not even have an endpoint. These require novel approaches, creativity and finding the least-worst outcome. Tame problems have known solutions and can be managed with the right expertise. Most problems we face are actually tame. Other people have faced and overcome the same issues, which is good news for us, as we can get advice and learn from other people’s experiences as we seek to make our own decisions.

3. Apply a decision-making process or model

Once we know the type of problem, we can choose a model or process to help us think through the problem and make our decision. Have a look at tools and frameworks that other people have used to make similar choices.

There are lots of different tools you can use. You may already be aware of some common ones such as the SWOT analysis or GROW model. These generic tools can be applied to many decisions, but it is worth doing some research as you may find that there are specific tools that can help with your particular situation. Resources such as The Decision Book (Korgerus and Tschapeler) is a great place to start as it has 50 different models to try.

4. Ask questions

Whichever model you choose you will find that it is generally a structured process of asking questions. Each tool aids us by giving a framework of questions for us to consider. You can even use question words, or interrogatives, as a framework. That is one of my favourite approaches and one I have used since my days as a bomb disposal officer.

You can do this by writing down the main interrogatives of why, where, what, how, who, when and which. Create your own open questions relating to your specific issue. My recommendation is to start with why questions, as I will explain next.

5. Understand what really matters 

As you start to develop your questions you will have to answer why the decision really matters. This is probably the most important thing to get straight in your mind before you go further. I agree with Simon Sinek in that we should ‘start with why’ when facing a problem or decision.

Asking why helps to delve into our motivation and priorities around the choice we are making. It makes us think about how our personal values relate to a given issue. Our principles guide us in the decisions we make. The hardest choices usually force us to prioritise and select between things we value. We can only make these kinds of choices if we are truly aware of those underlying values.

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6. Assess factors and constraints 

Once we have established our values, we can assess the various factors and constraints that we face in our situation. These factors will vary dependent upon the choice we are making. If we are choosing a home then factors might include the size of the property, its proximity to our workplace and whether it has a garden. Constraints are likely to include what we can afford and how far we can realistically commute.

7. Identify assumptions

It is good to gather data to help inform our decision, but we can never have all the information we might like or need. Therefore, we must make some assumptions in the absence of that data.

For example, we cannot know everything about someone we are attracted to. Whether you are at the point of asking them out for the first time or committing to them for life, you have to make that decision based on incomplete knowledge.

So, assumptions are essential, but we must be careful about making false assumptions just as much as ignoring key factors. Let’s say the person you are attracted to loses things. That is a factor. You might miss that fact, you might choose to discount it, but assuming someone will simply change is likely to be a false assumption. I can attest to this!

We can also make harmful false assumptions about ourselves. We can undermine our own decisions with these defeater beliefs. For example, we might discount ourselves from even asking someone out just because we feel we are not good enough.

At this stage of the process, having someone else to assist you can be really helpful. An objective friend, a mentor, coach, or counsellor is more likely to help you unearth and challenge any false assumptions you might hold, than if you just try and do it yourself. If it really is an important decision, get a third party involved, even if that just means phoning someone you trust to talk it through.

8. Consider your options

Once you have considered the situation, with all its factors and assumptions, you can then come up with different potential courses of action to address the problem. Very few issues have only one solution and usually, there is a plethora of advice and options that you could choose from. Therefore, once you have come up with a long list of ideas you can start to whittle the list down to the most attractive options.

You can use your values or an assessment of factors to help choose between options. One simple approach is to use a scoring system in a grid. List the options then score them against the principles or factors that are most relevant. The highest scoring course of action should be the best one.

9. Think through the consequences 

When considering your options, you should also think about the consequences. Work out the risks related to any course of action and think forward to imagine what could happen if you followed that route. Once again here you need to rely on certain assumptions so make sure they are reasonable ones.

Also, don’t discount the consequences of not making a decision. Delaying, avoiding, or actively not doing anything is a choice in itself. What is the opportunity cost of not deciding now, or in the future? Sometimes doing nothing is the right choice but make sure it is an active and considered decision.

Also, remember that you can’t always be right and sometimes things just don’t go your way. Don’t worry. Most decisions are reversible, even if they do come at cost of opportunity, time, money, or heartache. Some of our most important life lessons come from mistakes if we choose to learn from them. Things can also turn out better than expected. For example, joining the Army was not my first career choice but it turned out to be a great opportunity and I would not go back and change that if I could. Remember, at the end of the day – however things turn out – we have a choice about how we respond to events.

10. Make and act upon the decision

Finally, once you have thought things through, you must commit. You must choose and take action. Once decided you then act; you have to physically ask that person, press that button, make that purchase, or whatever it is to turn your choice into a reality.

My recommendation is that you record the process you used and the decision you make. That way, however it goes, you can reflect back on your approach and the outcome. Journaling can help with this but there is no one right way. The important thing is that you can reflect on your choices and learn. In that way, the decision-making cycle also becomes a learning cycle, and you will get better at making decisions.

Over to you

So that’s it. Whether you are setting yourself an audacious goal, picking a career, or choosing a life partner you can start with these ten steps and be confident that you will make a better informed and more effective decision than if you did not follow any process. You might have flipped a coin or gone on a gut feeling alone – and it might even work out – but you will be leaving a lot to luck and you will be missing out on a chance to improve your decision-making.

If you want to build your confidence and competence today and practice before you apply this to something really big, then you can use this same process for a slightly smaller choice. That might be something bigger than which TV series to watch after work but not as significant as changing your job. For example, you could plan a future vacation, where you want to go, with whom and what you want to do. Whatever you choose, take the time out to go through all the steps, record your thoughts and your decision. And feel free to let me know in the comments what you choose!

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Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

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9 Insightful Questions To Figure Out Your Life Goals

What do you want to achieve in life?

There are lots of approaches you can take to figure out life goals. You may already keep a bucket list of things you want to do but sometimes it is helpful to think about what we want to achieve using different tools. Each new approach can generate new ideas or give further insight into earlier thinking.

Your desire might be to unlock your purpose in life or just to generate ideas for goals you want to achieve. Either way, this set of questions can help you to create and explore your aims, desires, and dreams.

How to figure out life goals

These questions are based on coaching tips from Michael Neill in his book Supercoach. They are questions that I have found particularly helpful, both for setting my own personal goals and for helping people I coach as they set their life goals.

Go through each question in turn and write down as many ideas as you can against each one.

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What things should you achieve?

In other words, what do you feel duty-bound to do? What do you feel is a responsibility or a necessity to achieve?

Which goals are logical?

Another way of asking this question would be, what is the rational thing to progress to? What would be a natural thing to achieve if you follow the course you are presently on?

Which goals give you déjà vu?

Which goals are always on your list and never seem to go away? What goal have you always wanted to do but never succeeded in?

What goals would somebody else set you?

If you asked your best friend or a family member, what sort of goal would they set for you? Think about your spouse or partner, what would they say should be your goal?

Which dreams express your deep wants?

Which goal reflects the deepest desires of your heart? What would give you the greatest satisfaction to achieve?

What would you ask for from your fairy godmother?

If you could wish for anything, what would that be? How about three wishes? What would you ask for?

What are your happy wants?

Which things do you want to achieve that will make you happy? Which ideas make you happy even just thinking about doing them?

What are your naughty wants?

Which goals do you have that you have never told anyone about? What would you like to achieve but have been too embarrassed to share with anyone or too scared to try?

What do you think “if only” I could have achieved?

When you look back in life, what do you wish you had achieved? If you could turn back the clock what would you have done differently?


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How to prioritise your life goals

After answering all the questions above you should have a long list of ideas and dreams. The next task is to prioritise these goals and work out which one you want to achieve first.

Here are some more questions to help you narrow down your selection:

  • Which goals are aligned with your personal values?
  • What aim would best support your life purpose?
  • Which achievement would have the biggest positive impact on your life?
  • Which dream, if you did not achieve it, would you be most disappointed about?

How to achieve life goals

Once you have prioritised your list of goals and chosen which one (or more) that you want to achieve, the next step is examining the goal in more detail and developing a plan to help you to succeed.

There are other tools that can help you with this such as stating your goal as a SMART task and making sure it is specificmeasurableattainablerelevant and time-bound.

Another technique, common to coaching, is using the GROW model. Here you state your goal, then look at the reality of your situation and what your starting point is. Then you consider the options or obstacles that you face in achieving your mission, then work out the best way forward and commit your will to fulfil your dream.

Good luck with achieving your life goals!

If you want the right answers you have to start with the right questions

About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

Need help navigating your journey to success?

I love to serve people, helping them unlock their potential, empowering them as leaders, and assisting them in achieving their goals. Please get in touch and let me know how I can support you!

Musings on Leadership: Desire Real Impact? Ensure that People Flourish

Nick Chatrath is an entrepreneur, Managing Director and Master Executive Coach. He has worked for McKinsey and Company, been a business founder and a CEO. Nick has a DPhil from Oxford University and has co-authored a best-selling leadership book. He has coached MBA students, politicians, special forces soldiers and CEOs. In other words, he knows what he is talking about!

Apart from being a serial over-achiever, he is also my coach and friend! Here are some key lessons that I have learned from my discussions and coaching with Nick.

Leaders need to take time to reflect

When you speak to Nick you realise that being is at least as important as doing. In other words, thinking, working out your values, and your approach to life (not just work) are as important – if not more important – than your goals or your achievements.

Being this self-aware requires time. Time to reflect upon who we are and why we do things. Coaching plays a large part in creating time for reflection for leaders, and that creative process is one of the things that motivates Nick as a coach. I have seen first-hand the importance of this for myself and the leaders I coach.

One fascinating tool that Nick employs to encourage this sort of contemplation is ‘The Labyrinth’.

The Labyrinth

The Labyrinth is a reflective tool that takes clients on a journey to explore spiritual intelligence. The idea is based upon the labyrinths designed into old cathedrals, such as Chartres Cathedral in France. The labyrinth is a physical path or a track you follow, with stop-off points to allow reflection. The inspiration at each station could be a piece of text, an object, some music, or anything else that engages the senses and triggers the imagination. In this process, people can start to connect their ‘being’ to their ‘doing’ and deeply consider vital themes and ideas.

The Labyrinth effectively creates a mindful walk, which is something I have found one can replicate (if only in part) by being more mindful on a walk, no matter where you are. If you are anything like me, then generally you like to stride out and make progress when you walk. Taking time to pause can be almost physically painful! Therefore, it has become a discipline to stop, and use my senses on these types of walk.

If you want to try and do the same, you can try this. Go for a wander, it does not matter where, as long as you can avoid interruptions and choose some good places to stop and think. For example, to help you could:

  • Pick up or touch a small object such as a pebble or leaf. How does it feel? How was it made, or how did it get there? What role does it play in the larger environment? Answer the same questions for yourself.
  • Smell a blossom or fresh-cut grass. What memory does it invoke? What were you like then? How have you changed?
  • Listen to the wind or some flowing water. How does that make you feel? Do you feel better or worse? How do you want to feel?

There are of course many other questions you could ask; these are just examples. You can be very specific if you want and use objects to think about an issue that is on your mind. On the other hand, sometimes the best results come from just meditating on the object and letting the thoughts come on their own.

Find a leadership model that works for you

“All models are wrong, but some are useful.”

George E P Box

No model or approach is perfect, but they can be instructive. Therefore, find a leadership model that works for you – relevant to your experience – and then apply it.

One leadership approach that Nick favours is ‘Healthy Leadership’. Healthy leadership is a model based on work by Keller and Price (of McKinsey and Company, and authors of Beyond Performance) to maximise organisational performance and health.

Healthy leadership looks to keep a balance between the performance needs of the company and supporting the needs of the individual within the organisation. By contrast, an unhealthy organisation has these things out of balance and will start to fail.

Leaders help others to flourish

When things are in balance, organisations succeed, and people flourish. So, good leaders maintain the balance and help people flourish. This approach to leadership – one that promotes human flourishing – is motivated by wanting to help others.

Leadership is not just about executing a vision; it’s about fostering an environment where others can do their finest thinking and finest work. A coaching, less directive approach to leadership, gives the opportunity to help people flourish and have an impact, as a leader, through the success of others. You don’t have to be a professional coach to take this sort of approach. You just need to care about the people you lead and truly want them to succeed in life and work.

One simple way to start is by asking more questions. The next time you see a colleague or employee don’t make a statement, ask a question instead. And I don’t mean a pointed question such as ‘where is the work I asked for?’ or ‘why didn’t you do what I asked?’ I mean questions that build empathy and understanding such as ‘what are you working on?’ or ‘what challenges are you facing today?’

Acts of leadership are more important than leadership roles

Here is a challenging thought: Perhaps there are no leaders, just acts of leadership.

We often think about leadership as a role, but this misses out on large aspects of what leadership really is.

Thinking about leadership as what we do and how we do it (rather than just the role we fulfil) is a releasing concept, as it empowers us all. We can all be leaders in this sense, no matter how many people are following us when we look over our shoulder.

Don’t worry about the official number of people that you directly manage, or at least don’t make that your primary measure. If you are a pioneer, you may not have any people follow you immediately. Equally, in your situation, you may just be leading yourself. That is not a problem as leading yourself effectively is foundational to leading others well.

What matters is what you do and how you do it. Whatever your measure of influence, use it well. Take responsibility for your actions and make a positive impact.

Leadership is impact

Why are leadership acts more important than leadership roles? Because leadership is impact. It is the difference you make in people and in the world.

This impact is manifest in various spheres for example:

  • Self or an individual
  • A team, or community
  • In a larger organisation, network, or society

We all have some level of influence in these different spheres. What you do with that influence is more important than how much power you think you have.

Leaders are servants (but not slaves)

Serving others can be counter-cultural. Western culture can be very individualist and self-absorbed. Leadership in this setting can be expressed as a cult, centred on an individual. We all know of famous sports coaches hired to magically turn a team around, or celebrity CEOs, parachuted in to boost the share price. Leaders trying to emulate this type of model can wrongly try to be the hero or the saviour in their situation.

This misses the point that leadership is service. Good leaders value the people they lead. It is about valuing the whole person – which in turn comes back to the idea of leaders ensuring that people flourish.

“Serve to Lead”

Motto of the Royal Military Academy Sandhurst

The paradox of servant leadership is that good servant leaders nurture themselves as well as others. They are not slaves to other’s needs or whims. It’s also not selfish to lead yourself well. You need to lead yourself effectively if you are going to lead others.

For example, if you put in long hours, just because you think you should, you will miss out on rest, exercise, and proper food. That will soon reduce your energy levels and emotional resilience. This in turn will reduce your ability to make decisions and reduce your effectiveness as a leader. Serving others may be about sacrifice at times but it is not about being a pointless martyr.

Leaders create the right environment 

Leaders create an environment where people thrive. Research has shown that this is a place of emotional safety. A place where people feel secure and supported.

The Thinking Environment is a way to create this sort of environment. The approach was pioneered by Nancy Kline (author of Time to Think) and is based on the premise that the quality of our decisions and our actions is driven by the quality of our thinking.

Leaders can negatively affect thinking and they often do. For example, they can interrupt. How many times have you been interrupted by a manager or senior in a meeting? How many times have you been that person, cutting in on someone you lead?

Don’t Interrupt

Research has shown that interruptions increase adrenaline and a fight or flight response. If we are reacting to a threat, we do not have the space to do our best thinking.

Creativity and innovation come from creating an environment where people can think and share, without fear of being shot down. We should all be fascinated by what others have to say (rather than just trying to put our points across). This is even more important as leaders.

This is counter-cultural though and therefore it takes courage for leaders to create this sort of environment.

One classic example is in meetings, as mentioned earlier. People make the mistake of interrupting because they want to get things done but ironically, letting people speak can save time as people are understood and heard without needing to repeat themselves. If being succinct is also agreed as a ground-rule, then you can transform the productivity of meetings.

Leaders often think they need to be the hero in the situation and save people with their insight or contribution. It takes humility to realise this is not the most effective way to operate. People are also much more motivated when they own the idea or the way to execute a task. Every coach knows this.

Real leadership stories are as important as theoretical leadership models

Stories are key to learning. We share experiences with each other (exactly as I am doing now) so we can gain from other peoples’ know-how and insights, even their mistakes. This practice is especially important for leaders and can often be forgotten when people are chasing after the next great leadership approach or theory. Leadership models are useful, but mostly because they help us investigate and understand the actions of ourselves and others.

The models themselves are generally born out of experience and practice, and this can be seen in the book Musings on Leadership. Nick is co-author of this best-selling book with Tor Mesoy. It is an anthology of short stories and anecdotes, real-life experiences and lessons from different domains of life and leadership. I can attest to the fact that it is a very enjoyable and accessible book; the sort of thing you can easily dip into and read a chapter on a commute.

Leaders are good at prioritisation and time management

One lesson that Nick shares in Musing on Leadership about how to prioritise and manage your time well. These skills are key to any leader and come back to the point that we need to manage ourselves well before we manage others. Nick shares some simple process and tactics for setting priorities and managing time.

Managing your to-do list

For example, if you are creating a to-do list then follow these steps:

  • Make your long list of tasks
    • Then make a shortlist of what you are going to achieve the next day and
    • Next, assign time windows to each task
    • Then put it in your diary

It is important that you follow all these steps because unless you set aside the time, you are likely to never get things done. Or, you could miss the most important things, which brings us on to the next productivity hack.

The secret of prioritisation

The secret of prioritisation is simple: do the most important thing first.

That means don’t check your email or your phone until you have achieved that task! If you set your priorities in this way, it means you are much less likely to be distracted and however the rest of the day goes, you will have done the most important thing.

This concept is sometimes called ‘Be More Steve’ after Steve Jobs who advised that you should always focus on the one thing you can do, on any given day, that takes you closer to success. That task may not always be something you want to do. Hence the phrase ‘Eat that Frog’ coined by leadership guru Brian Tracy.


If you would like the interview I recorded with Nick then check out this podcast episode from The Right Questions Podcast.

If you want the right answers you have to start with the right questions

About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

Need help navigating your journey to success?

I love to serve people, helping them unlock their potential, empowering them as leaders, and assisting them in achieving their goals. Please get in touch and let me know how I can support you!

An Easy Daily Hack to Regain Calm, Creativity and Clarity

Whenever I feel I am losing my calm, hitting a mental block in creativity or needing some clarity of thought I go for a quick walk. I love long walks but sometimes just stepping away from the desk and outside for 5-10 minutes is all that is needed.

Calm

As walking is a gentle exercise it gives us the chance to release pent up mental stress without over-stressing the body in doing so. Walking beyond the confines of our workspace also changes our environment and therefore also our perspective. The act of walking helps to regulate our breathing and physiological state and that, in turn, improves our psychological state.

Creativity

The change of environment also produces new stimuli that promote creativity. As we allow our minds to wander our subconscious can get to work on whatever problem we are facing. This allows for the ‘eureka’ moments that come when we are in a more relaxed and mentally passive state.

Clarity

As Sasha Doyle pointed out, the question that we all need to focus on is ‘What’s the most important thing I need to do today?” The challenge is, when we are drowning under a deluge of competing demands, it is hard to gain the clarity needed to properly answer that question.

Just a short walk can create some distance from the demands to allow clarity of thought. With this cognitive as well as physical distancing one can properly assess priorities and make sure the most important thing is truly the most important (not just someone else’s most important thing).

So, no matter where you are. At home or the office, the city or in the country, go for a short walk to re-set, re-energise and re-ignite.

If you want the right answers you have to start with the right questions

About The Right Questions

The Right Questions is for people who want greater clarity, purpose and success. There is a wealth of resources to boost your effectiveness in achieving goals, your leadership of yourself and others, and your decision-making.

Wherever you are on your journey, I hope that you find information on this site to help you on the next leg of your quest. Even if that is just the inspiration to take one small step in the right direction, then that is a success. If you can take pleasure in learning and travelling as you go, then so much the better.

Need help navigating your journey to success?

I love to serve people, helping them unlock their potential, empowering them as leaders, and assisting them in achieving their goals. Please get in touch and let me know how I can support you!